It's time to do something you have never done before. Dive in!
Now is the time to become fabulous and fearless in your new life! A newly independent 50’ plus beautiful you! Never, ever before in the history of civilization, did we have as much freedom in choices and the ability to express ourselves as we do now. We can do what we want; go wherever we want, study what we want, work where we want, eat what we want, marry who we love or divorce who we do not enjoy any longer, and sleep with whomever we want. We can lose our religion and gain a new one; we are free to say what we want and wear whatever we want. Now we can even change our gender if we choose. This is great, isn't it?
Is it really freedom? Are we free when even a zip code tells so much about you, or even worse when you identify yourself with your lifestyle, not the other way around?
When events in your life change suddenly, and it comes as a surprise, we are often not prepared for adversity. We tend to blame others for the situation. It is easier, but is it really? Being a victim can give us some comfort in pain, but it will not help to move forward with life. This is true for all of us, and it doesn't matter how old or young you are. Break up is always painful. We grieve regardless of what contributed to your new circumstances. Now it becomes a new reality.
"The Show must go on."
Sometimes the choices seem endless and overwhelming. We start to try to "find ourselves." We want someone to take this burden of freedom off of our shoulders and show us how to live and give us direction, eventually finding a lifestyle that feels right, creating the new you.
So why are we so afraid to be single after 50'? We all know those sayings; you are what you eat; you are what you think, that someone is a slave to fashion, fashion victim, go out of style, cut a dash, be judged by appearance, look like a million dollars, and many others.
Ask yourself, am I out of fashion, do I truly live my life as who I really am? Take a moment and to look at yourself in the mirror and start "listening" to what you are saying. Is this really what you want to "tell" or show to the world? And as Tom Petty sings in "Square One," "I could never wear those clothes" you can see in your own eyes, something has changed in you…
"Everybody's had to fight to be free You see; you don't have to live like a refugee” (lyrics by Tom Petty).
Do not be afraid; you are not alone!
Find your new lifestyle and your new you, it's your time now! I know what I'm talking about because I have been there. "Style is knowing who you are, what you want to say, and not giving a damn." according to Coco Chanel; maybe now is a time for you to find yourself, this real you. You may have been asleep in the comfort and stability of your marriage or partnership. Redesign yourself, be your project!
You can recreate yourself; it is magic, alchemy. The same ingredients with different proportions can be medicine or poison.
So, do you want to be a healer or a killer?
And remember, "Life is a banquet, and most poor suckers are starving to death" - Rosalind Russell.
Freedom is yours!